Life is a total balancing act. Whether you are married or not with or without children its all about finding that semi close to perfect balance in all of your relationships and commitments. Entering into adulthood you quickly discover how difficult that balance can be to maintain. Add significant others and tiny humans who depend on you into the mix and you are really walking a tightrope a majority of the time trying to keep everything in line and still be sound of mind.
Just think about all the different areas of life we touch on just in our day to day… work life which comes with social relationships often, home life which is an absolute whirlwind of many different areas, immediate family such as parents and grandparents, your social life and keeping in touch with friends. So, how do we do it? How do we give an adequate amount of time to each of these important areas in our lives? I wish I knew! For some time Justin and I have been trying to find that perfect balance for everything but I’m not really sure it exists when we as individuals are always being pulled in so many directions. While it is frustrating its good to remind ourselves that its not always necessarily a bad thing because it just means our lives are full, and full of good things that keep us preoccupied. We would both love to have more personal time, more time together for just the two of us, more time to do things like exercise and do some extracurricular activities, more time for each of our families, just more time. I think thats something a lot of people find themselves saying “If the days were just a few hours longer I could get everything done…” So, again, how do we do it? How do we live to enjoy the little (and big) things when we are so busy with absolutely everything.
I think the only answer I can come up with to the questions I asked is that you just have to learn to let go of the little things. Don’t worry about the things that don’t have to be done right now or even tomorrow. Often times I let a pile of laundry or a sink full of dishes distract me from time with my family or cause me stress I don’t need to subject myself to. I have a tendency to get distracted by household tasks when I should be enjoying my kids while they are small and spending those moments with my husband when both kids are in bed and we can have an adult conversation.
Maybe you even need to find some literal balance in your life by taking a yoga class or going paddle boarding during the summer months. These are things you can do for yourself or together as a family. I think for the most part we all need a lot of figurative balance in our lives and when someone discovers that absolute perfect balance to all aspects of life I hope they share it with everyone.
How do you keep your life balanced?
(Originally posted on June 13th, 2017)